Please enjoy last Sunday’s talk at InsightLA, Long Beach!
There are simple ways of reminding ourselves that we can shape our experiences to include more compassion. I have a teacher, for example, who bakes beautiful pies on Thanksgiving to bring to her family gathering. When it comes time to transport them, she has to be very careful. She drives slowly and cautiously. Other drivers, unaware of her precious cargo, don’t seem to appreciate when she drives so gingerly. You can imagine the line of frustrated drivers stuck behind her.
There are other times throughout the year when she finds herself sitting, irritated, behind a driver moving too slowly for her liking or one taking a little to long to respond to a green light. One day she caught herself feeling upset at another driver and realized that she has been that person. At least one day a year, she has been the slow driver holding up the others. “That’s me,” she thought. “I’ve been there. Maybe they’re moving slowly because they’re carrying precious cargo. Maybe they’ve got pies.”
She caught herself in a moment of suffering as a result of her irritation and frustration. Turning mindful attention on how she felt created spaciousness. In this space, she was able to choose. She used compassion for herself and non-judgment to turn her suffering into understanding. She transformed the tension that she felt into the recognition that she and the other driver are actually the same.
Everyday there are countless opportunities to use mindful awareness to access the empathy that lives within us. If we pay attention in each moment, we’ll find the space to remind ourselves “maybe they’ve got pies”.